by Beth Whitman
It’s been said that everything in the vastly diverse country of India can be taken to its extreme. It’s a country of immense beauty yet utter filth. The countryside can seem barren, yet the cities and traffic are the densest on earth. The rich have unimaginable wealth and the poor can barely scrape by. Bollywood actresses dress seductively yet the country as a whole is extremely socially conservative.
Because of this social conservatism, it’s important that women travelers educate themselves to India’s social mores and culture to best prepare for a safe journey.
During a month-long trip to India, I met many women traveling, with companions and in groups. There were those on short but expensive holidays, backpackers and volunteers traveling for several months and, of course, those who were working for an extended period of time through pre-arranged programs. Most of them were respectful of the local customs but some of these women behaved and dressed in manners that were insulting and disrespectful to Indians. I believe this disregard was due to ignorance rather than any intentional point to defy Indian traditions. This lack of awareness, however, not only affects how that individual may be treated by the locals, but also how other travelers who follow in their footsteps will be treated.
To avoid any missteps or cultural faux pas, here are some things women should be aware of as they travel around the magnificent country of India.
Dressing appropriately will set the tone of how you are received by the locals (and potentially other travelers) and will help ensure that unwanted attention and advances from men are kept to a minimum. Low cut, tight-fitting shirts, tank tops, skirts that fall above the knees, shorts and bikinis are highly discouraged. While swimsuits can be worn in beach resort areas such as Goa, consider wearing a conservative one-piece and covering yourself with a sarong and t-shirt when you’re not sunbathing or when you are interacting with locals. Short sleeve cotton shirts can be worn in warmer climates but they should be loose fitting and not revealing. Observe the locals and dress a bit more conservatively than the most liberally dressed woman.
You will be more readily accepted and respected if you incorporate some of the local dress into your outfits. Plan to shop once you arrive – it will help you fit in with the locals and perhaps allow you to share in some of the beauty that every Indian woman seems to exude. Your purchase can be as simple as a locally made blouse or a delicate scarf or shawl worn over your western-style clothes.
For a bit more traditional clothing, consider buying a salwar kameez. The kameez itself is a loose-fitting blouse, often with Â¾ or long sleeves, that comes down past the waist or just above the knees. Salwars are loose-fitting pajama-like pants that are very wide at the top and very narrow at the ankles. A dupatta (long scarf) is often used as an accessory or for covering the head when need be. A full outfit can be purchased at many department stores, small boutiques or can be tailor-made (recommended if you are a large size as many clothes are made for small women) for a very reasonable price.
Saris are worn by all Indian women at one time or another but are rarely worn by Western women, except, perhaps, for a special occasion such as a wedding. A sari consists of a long length of fabric wrapped elegantly, and without pins, zippers or buttons, around the body and over a choli (a short sleeved and often midriff-baring top). While a choli may seem revealing to the Western eye because the stomach often shows, it should never be worn alone without a sari or other fabric covering it up. This would be akin to wearing just your bra outside your home.
While Bollywood beauties are seen in advertisements and movies wearing provocative clothing, the same low-cut or see-through-style blouses are off-limits to the rest of the population, and this means travelers, too.
Indian women take great pride in their beauty and take special care in choosing their attire. They’ll be noticed for what they are wearing and you will be, too. A gentleman who had just sold me more than a hundred dollars worth of silver jewels suggested that I wear something more Indian so that, even after two and a half weeks of travel, I didn’t look like I just got off the plane. After that, I felt boyish and self-conscious in my Ex Officio blouse.
Generally speaking, India poses few problems for women travelers. Victims rarely experience violent offenses but instead should be aware of opportunistic thieves. Your personal safety and the potential theft of your belongings will be your two main concerns.
To prevent sexual harassment, keep your arms folded in front of you in large crowds and on public transportation. Gropers will test you if given a chance — don’t offer them an opportunity. It’s best not to initiate conversations that could be construed as flirtatious or personal and sidestep answering personal questions about yourself. If you’re traveling alone or with a female friend, invent a husband and make it clear that you are not interested in anyone else. Avoid situations where you may find yourself alone with a man. Connect with other travelers to share a taxi ride or tour and never let a man into your hotel room under any circumstance. If you order room service, don’t let the door shut behind the bellhop, for instance. Very importantly, follow the advice on dressing conservatively.
You may be approached to become involved in a sexual encounter. Generally, this will come in a suggestive manner rather than in aggressive behavior. If you’re not interested, firmly decline and extract yourself from the situation as quickly as possible. If you are interested, understand that it is uncommon for many Indian men and women to have premarital sex, especially those from more traditional families. What you may construe as a genuine interest in a relationship from an Indian male may easily be a casual encounter for him. Know what you’re getting into and practice safe sex. According to the United States Agency for International Development (USAID), India is second only to South Africa in terms of the number of people living with HIV.
Beyond sexual harassment, you’ll want to ensure that your personal belongings are safe. Secure day bags or backpacks around your body (over your head and shoulder or a strap threaded through your belt loop), lock zippers together and wear a money belt, neck pouch or leg pouch securely hidden underneath your clothes. When traveling on public transportation, lock your bags together with a cable lock and then to a stationary object such as a bench or immovable seat.
Probably the most common offense will simply be that you are financially taken advantage of by someone in the service industry. Taxi drivers, tour operators and hotel desk clerks may attempt to overcharge you. Be clear beforehand what the cost of a service will be and shop around before agreeing on a price. Hiring a driver for a day may include a limited number of kilometers. Check the odometer before setting out. Ask if you are expected to pay for meals and hotel charges for your driver if you have an overnight stay and whether there is an additional charge for using the air conditioning. Examine all bills before you pay them so that you aren’t being charged for miscellaneous items you didn’t receive.
For your own safety, pack light. Train and bus travel are popular in India and with few bags you’ll be able to move quickly out of potentially nasty situations and you won’t have to keep an eye on too many items while in-transit. Personally, I take one carry-on bag and one small day bag that gets tucked underneath the seat in front of me on the airplane.
I find that a roll-aboard bag that can be converted into a backpack is most convenient. It will allow you to pull your luggage through the airport or hotel lobby but quickly convert it into a backpack when you encounter steps or bumpy sidewalks. You’ll also be better received at a hotel in India if you have what looks like luggage rather than a backpack.
My day bag contains the essentials (camera, book, lip balm, tissues, pen, journal, light snack). A bag made of slash-proof material and strap is ideal.
Don’t pack so much that you need an animal to help carry your bags!
Lose the purse and carry a variety of currency options in at least two locations on your body. A small change purse carried in your pocket or day pack should have enough small rupees to allow you to make purchases at a market or to pay for a taxi or auto rickshaw ride. Keep larger amounts of cash, your passport (or a copy of it), a credit card and debit card as well as travelers checks in a money belt, neck pouch or leg pouch.
Use your credit card for larger purchases (hopefully, you’re getting airline mileage on your credit card), your debit card to make cash withdrawals from an ATM, cash in U.S. dollars (including singles for tips) to use in an emergency or to change at a bank if an ATM is unavailable and travelers checks as a backup. While travelers checks are not as popular as they once were, trust me, they can definitely come in handy during a power outage when ATMs won’t work and in small villages that don’t have cash machines.
Keep a copy of your travelers check numbers at home and in your luggage separate from the checks themselves. Carry the non toll-free number of your credit and debit card companies as you cannot make a toll-free call from abroad but you can call collect.
In the event that you are robbed, having a change purse will allow you to hand over a small portion of your money (and perhaps an invalid credit card, appeasing a thief) without giving away everything. It’s unlikely that you would get mugged at gun or knife-point but it is completely possible that someone will attempt to grab your bag, change purse or money belt if they see an opportunity. Keep your valuables close at hand and never try to access your money belt in a public place.
Women travelers to India will encounter a more sexist attitude from the locals than they might in most Western countries. However, by acting and dressing appropriately, the journey can be as safe and rewarding as a journey anywhere in the world!
Beth Whitman is the author of Wanderlust and Lipstick: The Essential Guide for Women Traveling Solo, the publisher of Wanderlust and Lipstick and the travel blogger for the Seattle Post Intelligencer.
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